Be Brave, Be Wrong

For Father’s Day I watched an excellent movie with my husband called "Only the Brave." One of the scenes has an incredible quote that grabbed my attention as a mindset coach.

“Sometimes we see things not as they are, but as we are.”

Wow. Truth.

I think this statement is relevant to much more than dramatic, movie scenarios. I would venture to amend the quote saying, “Usually we see things not as they are, but as we are.” We color the circumstances of our life with our thoughts about it. 

Recall to mind an instance when these sentiments sound familiar:

“It’s not my fault….” 

“If the other person would stop ____, then I could enjoy being around them.”

“I’m just always tense when so and so is around and find myself judging everything.” 

That instance could be a time when you are seeing things as you are, not as they are. 

I recently found myself in two such circumstances. Both of them had to do with relationships with friends and family. 

In both circumstances, I thought I was right. I didn’t even think I had done anything wrong. But when I self-coached and brought all those self-righteous, critical, raw, ugly thoughts to the light, things became much clearer and I began to see them as they are. The Lord challenged me to be wrong. 

I looked for how I could be wrong and suddenly I wondered, “How could I have seen it the other way before? It seems so silly and trivial now.” 

I found tremendous freedom and relief when I was willing to be wrong. I was able to enjoy those relationships which had become such a burden to me. 

So here’s my suggestion for you today, remember that time you recalled in the beginning of this post? Be willing to be wrong. 

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